Guest Guide Blue - SelfEsteem

"How we feel about ourselves affects virtually every aspect of our experience, from the way we function at work, in love, in sex, to the way we operate as parents, to how high in life we are likely to rise.

Our responses to the happenings in our everyday life are shaped by who and what we think we are.

Self-esteem is the key to success or failure. Self-esteem has another value - it also holds the key to understanding ourselves and other people.

I cannot think of a single psychological problem that is not traceable to a poor self-concept.

Positive self-esteem is a cardinal requirement of a fulfilling life."

Nathaniel Brandon

"Managers or team leaders can increase my self-esteem by offering comments that show their approval:

“I value you; you are unique.”

“You are important in this organization.”

“I value you and your work.”

Compliments paid to me about creative approaches to work assignments, dedications to teamwork, and sensitivity to the feelings of others are greatly appreciated."

"Gestures of friendship such as a pat on the back or shoulder, a handshake, a friendly smile, are very rewarding.

They enhance the self-esteem of people like me."

Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves, not how others feel about us. We trust ourselves, believe in ourselves, we experience ourselves as worthy. We believe we deserve to be happy.

Our responses to all aspects of life are shaped by our self-concept and our self-esteem. It is the most powerful judgment we make about ourselves.

Self-esteem consists of our feelings about our personal competence, our ability to cope with life, our personal worth, our right to be happy and stand up for ourselves, our interests, our needs and our worthiness to live life and be productive members of society. It is the reputation we acquire with ourselves.

Just as individuals display behaviours typical of their personality style when they are experiencing positive self-esteem, they display a different personality style when they are experiencing low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is often the root cause of negative behaviours.

Even corporate training programs cannot be successful if individuals are not being positively esteemed in the process. Enhancing the positive self-esteem of employees is the first order of business and it is necessary to integrate self-esteem activities into the corporate environment.

It is absolutely essential that we increase an employee's positive self-esteem in terms of the values and beliefs of the individual's personality style. Certain behaviours or comments will increase the self-esteem of some personality styles while the same comments or behaviours may have no effect or even lower the self-esteem of other personality types.

The Relationship Way - Blue personality styles want to be appreciated for their uniqueness, their unique contributions, their competence in human and having their own feelings and ideas accepted.

I. Building positive self-esteem in the

Relationship Way - Blue by allowing them to:

Be able to dialogue with colleagues
Create support systems and social contacts
Be creative in the workplace with colleagues
Express feelings and emotions
Demonstrate caring attitudes
Express enthusiasm

II. Techniques which might be used to build

positive self-esteem at work in the

Relationship Way - Blue:

Providing personal and social recognition
Remembering and calling them by name
Praising and complimenting them personally
Letting them share what they know
Supervising through the use of discussions and groups
Recognizing how their social values connect to teamwork
Being aware of their sensitivity to group feedback
Maintaining a conflict-free environment

III. Use the following when directing the

Relationship Way - Blue:

Being open and non-judgmental
Showing integrity
Genuine
Being aware of feelings
Willingness to talk and discuss issues

IV. Recognize low self-esteem in the

Relationship Way - Blue

when these clues are exhibited:

Attention-getting behaviour
Lying to save face
Withdrawal
Day-dreaming
Crying Depression
Passive resistance
Emotional outbursts
Inertia
Little self-confidence

V. Encourage the Relationship Way - Blue by
appreciating and recognizing some of the

following:

Sensitivity and caring of all employees
Creativity
Cooperative attitudes
Willingness to care
Unique contributions
Personal uniqueness
Understanding of feelings of self and others
Personal growth
Personal characteristics that are valued and meaningful
Honesty and sincerity

Relationship Way - Blue by allowing them to:

II. Techniques which might be used to build

positive self-esteem at work in the

Relationship Way - Blue:

III. Use the following when directing the

Relationship Way - Blue:

IV. Recognize low self-esteem in the

Relationship Way - Blue

when these clues are exhibited:

V. Encourage the Relationship Way - Blue by
appreciating and recognizing some of the

following:

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Relationship Way - Blue by allowing them to:

II. Techniques which might be used to build

positive self-esteem at work in the

Relationship Way - Blue:

III. Use the following when directing the

Relationship Way - Blue:

IV. Recognize low self-esteem in the

Relationship Way - Blue

when these clues are exhibited:

V. Encourage the Relationship Way - Blue by appreciating and recognizing some of the

following:

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V. Encourage the Relationship Way - Blue by
appreciating and recognizing some of the